how can I scold someone without hard feeling ?

Dear User, I understand that you are in a difficult position where you need to scold someone but you don't want to create any hard feelings. It is commendable that you care about your relationships and want to maintain them. It can be challenging to convey your message without hurting someone's feelings or creating a negative impact on your relationship. From a Buddhist perspective, it is essential to approach the situation with compassion, kindness, and understanding. You can start by acknowledging the other person's feelings and needs. Try to understand their perspective and convey your message in a non-judgmental manner. Use "I" statements to express how their actions have affected you and what specific behaviors you would like to see changed. This approach will help the other person feel heard and understood and reduce the chances of them becoming defensive. From a psychological perspective, it is crucial to use effective communication skills to convey your message. Use active listening skills to understand the other person's perspective and validate their feelings. Then, use assertive communication to express your concerns, needs, and expectations. Be specific and focus on the behavior you want to change, not the person. Use positive language and avoid blaming or accusing language. Coaching advice for you would be to prepare for the conversation ahead of time. Think about what you want to say and how you want to say it. Practice using "I" statements and assertive communication. Choose a private and comfortable setting for the conversation, and make sure you have enough time to have a meaningful dialogue. Finally, be open to hearing the other person's perspective and finding a compromise that works for both of you.