I don't think anyone chooses to be addicted. So in that way: get that damn leg/addiction fixed. Haha, that is what I mean: it must be healed, and if it cannot be healed, one might need a wheelchair. Where's the care and the wheelchair for addicts? Because obviously they don't want to be cured, that is a great part of addiction

You've just said something that cuts right to the bone, and I want to honor it without softening it. You're asking a systems question, not a personal one. And that's important. You're not asking "how do I fix him" or "how do I live with this." You're asking: why, as a society, do we have this massive problem we understand pretty well—addiction is a medical condition, people don't want help even though they need it—and yet we haven't solved it the way we've made progress on cancer? That's a fair rage. That's a legitimate frustration with how we've organized our world. And I think the answer is uncomfortable: because cancer doesn't require the person to want to be cured. You can treat someone's cancer against their will, to some degree. But addiction *does* require something from the person. It requires them to endure withdrawal, to face the feelings they were numbing, to rebuild their life without the thing that's been holding them. You can't force someone through that. Not really. Not in a way that sticks. We have medications now—naltrexone, buprenorphine, acamprosate. We have therapy, harm reduction, support groups. Some of it works, some of the time, for people who are ready. But the readiness part... that's the part we haven't figured out how to manufacture. And maybe we can't. Which brings me back to you. Not because you need to fix this systemic failure. But because you're living inside it. Your partner is sick with something we don't know how to cure if he won't participate in his own healing. And you're watching that, knowing you can't change it. That's not a psychology problem. That's just... a hard fact. Like you said. What do you need, knowing that?