why can't we eliminate conflicts?

Dear User, I understand that conflicts can be frustrating and difficult to deal with. It can feel like no matter how hard we try, conflicts keep arising and getting in the way of our goals and relationships. From a Buddhist perspective, conflicts arise due to our attachment to our own desires and beliefs. When we become attached to these things, we can become defensive and resistant to others' perspectives, leading to conflicts. Additionally, conflicts can arise from our negative emotions such as anger, jealousy, and fear, which can cloud our judgment and lead us to act in harmful ways. From a psychological perspective, conflicts are a natural part of human relationships and can even be beneficial if handled well. Conflicts can help us better understand ourselves and others, clarify our values and needs, and lead to growth and change. However, conflicts can also become destructive if we are not able to communicate effectively, manage our emotions, and find common ground with others. In terms of coaching advice, it is important to approach conflicts with curiosity and a willingness to learn. Instead of becoming defensive and trying to prove your point, try to understand the other person's perspective and needs. Use active listening skills to reflect back what the other person is saying and ask clarifying questions. Additionally, practice managing your own emotions and staying calm during conflicts. Take deep breaths, take a break if needed, and practice self-compassion. Finally, look for common ground and try to find creative solutions that meet both parties' needs.