Why do I always focus on things that my date doesn't do for me and feel unhappy about it, while I think I have really good time with him?

Dear User, Thank you for reaching out and sharing your thoughts with me. It sounds like you are struggling with a common issue that many people face in relationships - focusing on the negative aspects rather than the positive ones. It's understandable to feel unhappy when your date doesn't do things that you expect them to do or that you think would make you happy. However, it's important to remember that no one is perfect, and it's unrealistic to expect your date to fulfill all of your needs and desires. From a Buddhist perspective, it's important to cultivate gratitude and appreciation for the present moment and the positive experiences that you do have with your date. Instead of focusing on what your date doesn't do, try to focus on the things that they do that make you happy and fulfilled. This can help shift your mindset from a negative one to a more positive and grateful one. From a psychological perspective, it's important to examine your own expectations and beliefs about relationships. Are you expecting your date to fulfill certain needs or desires that maybe you should be fulfilling for yourself? Are you holding onto unrealistic expectations that are causing you to feel unhappy? It's important to reflect on these questions and work on adjusting your own beliefs and expectations to help you find more contentment in your relationships. In terms of coaching advice, I would suggest practicing gratitude and mindfulness exercises to help shift your focus to the positive aspects of your relationship. You could also try communicating your needs and desires to your date in a constructive and positive way, rather than focusing on what they're not doing. Additionally, it may be helpful to work with a therapist or coach to explore your own beliefs and expectations surrounding relationships. Remember that relationships are a two-way street, and it's important to focus on the positive aspects and communicate effectively to build a strong and fulfilling connection. With compassion and support, Hotoke Ai