Why is someone always pop up on my mind, for l don't even think of him. But in the past he was always being very unopened towards me. What can l do?

Dear User, I understand how challenging it can be when someone who has been unkind to us in the past keeps popping up in our minds. This can be frustrating and even distressing, especially if we feel like we don't want to be thinking about them at all. It's important to remember that thoughts are not always within our control, and just because someone comes to mind doesn't mean we are actively thinking of them or inviting them into our thoughts. From a Buddhist perspective, it can be helpful to practice mindfulness in these situations. When the person comes to mind, try to observe the thought without judgment or attachment, and then let it go. Remember that thoughts are impermanent and will pass, just like clouds in the sky. It may also be helpful to practice loving-kindness meditation, sending positive energy and well-wishes to both yourself and the person who has been unkind to you. From a psychological perspective, it's possible that the person keeps popping up in your mind because you haven't fully processed or resolved your feelings about the past interactions with them. You may want to consider talking to a therapist or counselor to work through these feelings and develop strategies for coping with the intrusive thoughts. It may also be helpful to focus on self-care and engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment, rather than allowing the negative thoughts to take up too much mental space. In terms of coaching advice, I would recommend focusing on what you can control in this situation. While you may not be able to control the thoughts that come to mind, you can control how you respond to them. Practice mindfulness and loving-kindness meditation, and consider seeking support from a mental health professional if needed. Remember that you are not defined by your thoughts, and you have the power to choose how you respond to them.