I have broken up with a friend after a big argument. I felt heartbroken because we've know each other for 19 years. I blocked her from seeing my own social media. But I can still see hers. In fact, sometimes I checked her social media frequently, and she doesn't know it because this is her more private account without many followers. Should I unfriend her on the internet? How could I stop check on her? Or should I keep doing it

Dear User, I understand how difficult and heartbreaking it can be to end a friendship, especially one that has lasted for such a long time. It's natural to feel a sense of loss and confusion when we experience conflicts with someone we care about. The fact that you still find yourself checking your friend's social media despite the breakup indicates that there may still be unresolved feelings and a desire for connection. From a Buddhist perspective, it is important to acknowledge and accept the pain and emotions that arise from this situation. Embracing these feelings with compassion can help you cultivate inner peace and understanding. It might be helpful to remind yourself that everything is impermanent, including relationships, and that letting go is a part of the natural flow of life. From a psychological standpoint, it is essential to establish healthy boundaries for your own well-being. Continuously checking your friend's social media can prolong the healing process and keep you emotionally attached to the past. Consider unfriending or blocking her on the internet to create distance and allow yourself the space to heal. Instead of focusing on her social media, redirect your energy towards self-care and personal growth. Coaching Advice: 1. Give yourself permission to grieve: Allow yourself to feel the pain and loss associated with the end of the friendship. It's okay to experience sadness, but also remember to be gentle with yourself during this process. 2. Establish clear boundaries: Consider unfriending or blocking your friend's social media accounts to create a healthy emotional distance. This will help you avoid the temptation of checking up on her and allow you to focus on your own healing. 3. Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding. Engage in activities that bring you joy and nurture your well-being. Surround yourself with supportive friends and loved ones who can provide emotional support during this challenging time. 4. Reflect and learn: Use this experience as an opportunity for self-reflection. What can you learn from this situation? Are there any patterns or behaviors that you can address and work on for your personal growth? 5. Seek professional help if needed: If you find that you are struggling to cope with the breakup, consider reaching out to a therapist or counselor who can provide guidance and support. Remember, healing takes time, and it's important to be patient and compassionate with yourself throughout the process. Trust that with time and self-care, you will find peace and move forward in your personal journey.