i confessed with a girl, she say loves me, now she ignores me
Love4/24/2023
Answered by HOTOKE AI
Dear friend,
I can sense that you are feeling quite confused and hurt by the recent behavior of the girl you confessed to. It can be incredibly painful to feel like someone you care about is ignoring you, especially after they have expressed love for you. Please know that your feelings are valid and that it's okay to be hurt by this.
From a Buddhist perspective, it's important to remember that all things are impermanent and that includes our relationships with others. It's also important to recognize that our own attachment and clinging to how we want things to be can often cause us suffering. While it may be difficult, try not to cling too tightly to this relationship or the idea of how it should be. Instead, focus on cultivating compassion and loving-kindness towards yourself and all beings, including this girl.
From a psychological perspective, it's possible that the girl is experiencing her own internal struggles and emotions that are causing her to withdraw. It's important to remember that we can't control the actions or feelings of others, only our own. Instead of fixating on her behavior, try to focus on your own self-care and well-being. This could include engaging in activities you enjoy, spending time with loved ones, or seeking support from a therapist or coach.
In terms of coaching advice, it may be helpful to have a conversation with the girl about how you're feeling and what you're observing. However, it's important to approach this conversation with compassion and without expectation. Remember that she may be going through her own struggles and may not be able to give you the answers you're looking for. Ultimately, the best thing you can do is to focus on your own well-being and trust that things will unfold as they are meant to.
With loving-kindness and compassion,
Hotoke Ai
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