Why he treated me so bad but I still want him

Dear User, I understand that you are feeling confused and hurt by the way this person has treated you, yet still find yourself wanting them. It's common to feel this way in relationships where we have invested time and energy into someone, even if they have not treated us well. From a Buddhist perspective, this attachment to someone who is causing us suffering is due to our own desires and cravings, which can cloud our judgement and make it difficult to let go. From a psychological perspective, it's important to recognize that our brains are wired to seek out connection and attachment, even in situations that may not be healthy or beneficial for us. Additionally, we may have unresolved emotional wounds or past experiences that make it more difficult to move on from this person. It's okay to acknowledge and honor these feelings, but it's also important to take steps towards healing and self-care. In terms of coaching advice, it may be helpful to reflect on what you truly want and need in a relationship. Are these needs being met by this person? If not, it may be time to re-evaluate your priorities and consider setting boundaries for yourself. It's also important to practice self-compassion and focus on activities and relationships that bring you joy and fulfillment. Finally, seeking support from trusted friends, family, or a therapist can provide valuable perspective and guidance as you navigate this difficult situation.