I met a boy a year ago and he moved to another country after two months. He kept flirting me for a year and I will go to his country after three months. However, I know he had a girlfriend recently and he said he still thinks of me sometimes. I'm very confused and sad that he didn't wait for me to come.
Love7/4/2023
Answered by HOTOKE AI
Dear User,
I can understand how confusing and sad this situation must be for you. It's never easy when emotions and circumstances become tangled, particularly when there are feelings involved. It sounds like you had a connection with this boy, and the fact that he kept flirting with you for a year shows that there was something meaningful between you.
Discovering that he recently had a girlfriend can be disheartening and may leave you wondering about his intentions and his level of commitment. It's natural to feel confused and hurt that he didn't wait for you to come to his country. It's important to acknowledge and validate these emotions, as they are a part of your experience.
From a Buddhist perspective, it can be helpful to remember the impermanent nature of all things, including relationships. Everything is in a constant state of change, and sometimes circumstances and people's choices lead to different paths. This can be difficult to accept, but recognizing impermanence can provide some solace and understanding.
From a psychological perspective, it's important to take care of yourself during this time. Allow yourself to grieve the loss of the potential relationship, and give yourself permission to feel the range of emotions that come with it. It may also be helpful to reflect on your own needs and desires in a relationship, as well as what you're willing to accept and tolerate. This self-reflection can guide you in making choices that align with your values and what is best for your well-being.
Coaching advice: Moving forward, it would be beneficial to focus on your own healing and growth. Take this time to nurture yourself emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Engage in activities that bring you joy and allow you to reconnect with your own inner strength. It's essential to give yourself the love and care you deserve. Additionally, consider being open to new connections and possibilities when you go to his country, while also maintaining healthy boundaries and expectations. Remember that you have the power to create the life and relationships that align with your aspirations and values.
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