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I like a girl but she doesn’t seem to like me, we are prima faciie great friends, shall I confess or not, shall I alienate?

Love5/21/2023

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Dear User, I understand that it can be challenging when you have romantic feelings for someone who doesn't seem to reciprocate those feelings. It can be difficult to navigate those emotions, especially when you value the friendship you have with this person. From a Buddhist perspective, it is important to practice non-attachment and acceptance. This means recognizing that everything is impermanent and that clinging to a specific outcome or expectation can cause suffering. It's also important to cultivate compassion for yourself and the other person, understanding that everyone is on their own journey and may not be ready or able to reciprocate your feelings. From a psychological perspective, it's important to consider the potential consequences of confessing your feelings or distancing yourself. Confessing your feelings could potentially put strain on the friendship or make things awkward between you two. On the other hand, distancing yourself could also strain the friendship and potentially cause you to miss out on a valuable connection. As a coach, I would suggest taking some time to reflect on your feelings and what you truly want out of this situation. Are you willing to risk the friendship to confess your feelings? Are you willing to continue the friendship without the possibility of a romantic relationship? Once you have a better understanding of your own emotions and desires, you can make a decision that aligns with your values and goals. Remember to approach this situation with kindness and respect for yourself and the other person. It's okay to feel vulnerable and uncertain, but it's important to act in a way that aligns with your values and promotes well-being.

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