why men are all selfish?

Dear User, I hear your frustration and disappointment with men being selfish. It can be difficult to feel like we are constantly encountering selfish behavior from others, especially in personal relationships. From a Buddhist perspective, it is important to remember that we all have a basic human nature of self-preservation and self-interest. However, this doesn't mean that everyone is inherently selfish all the time. It is also important to understand that our thoughts and actions are influenced by our past experiences, upbringing, and cultural conditioning. So, it's possible that the men you have encountered may have learned to prioritize their own needs above others, or may not have learned how to empathize with others. From a psychological perspective, it is helpful to recognize that we all have different attachment styles and ways of relating to others. Some people may have an avoidant attachment style, which means they struggle with intimacy and can come across as selfish. Others may have a more anxious attachment style, which can lead to people-pleasing and neglecting one's own needs. It's also possible that the men you have encountered are simply not a good match for you and your values. It's important to remember that not all men are the same, and it's unfair to generalize based on past experiences. In terms of coaching advice, I would suggest taking a step back and reflecting on what you personally need and value in a relationship. Are there any patterns or red flags you have noticed in past relationships? It may be helpful to communicate your needs and boundaries clearly with potential partners so that you can both be on the same page. Additionally, practicing self-compassion and self-care can help increase your sense of self-worth and attract healthier relationships. Remember to approach new relationships with an open mind and heart, and be willing to compromise and work together to build a healthy relationship.