I have trouble setting boundaries and then I feel resentful

Dear friend, I understand that setting boundaries can be challenging, and it's common to feel resentful when we don't set them. It's important to recognize that setting boundaries is an act of self-care and self-respect. Without boundaries, we can feel overwhelmed, taken advantage of, and drained. It's understandable to feel hesitant to set boundaries, especially if we fear disappointing or upsetting others. From a Buddhist perspective, setting boundaries is an act of compassion, both for ourselves and others. When we set boundaries, we are communicating our needs and limitations in a way that is respectful and kind. We are also creating space for others to do the same, which can lead to more authentic and fulfilling relationships. From a psychological perspective, it's important to recognize the underlying beliefs and fears that may be holding us back from setting boundaries. We may have learned in childhood that our needs and feelings were not important, or that it was safer to avoid conflict. We may also fear rejection or abandonment if we assert ourselves. Identifying these patterns can help us approach boundary-setting with greater clarity and confidence. In terms of coaching, I would suggest starting small with boundary-setting. Begin by identifying one area where you would like to set a boundary, such as saying "no" to a request that doesn't align with your values or priorities. Practice saying "no" in a way that is respectful and clear, and notice how it feels in your body. It may be uncomfortable at first, but with practice, it will become easier. Remember that setting boundaries is a process, and it's okay to make mistakes or adjust as needed.