What would you recommend as a solution to my issue that i get so reactive when someone tells me NOT to do something?

Dear User, thank you for reaching out for advice on how to handle your reactivity when someone tells you not to do something. I can understand how frustrating this can be for you, and it's important to know that you're not alone. Reactivity is a common human response, and it can stem from a variety of factors. From a Buddhist perspective, we believe that our reactions often stem from our attachment to our own desires and expectations. When someone tells us not to do something, it can feel like a threat to our sense of control and autonomy. From a psychological perspective, reactivity can be linked to childhood experiences or trauma, as well as our beliefs about ourselves and the world. It's important to recognize that your reactivity is a natural response, but that it doesn't have to control you. One helpful practice is mindfulness meditation, which can help you become more aware of your thoughts and feelings in the moment. By noticing when you feel reactive and bringing your attention to your breath or body, you can begin to create a sense of space between the trigger and your response. This can help you respond more intentionally and less impulsively. It can also be helpful to examine your beliefs about control and autonomy, and to challenge any rigid or limiting beliefs that may be contributing to your reactivity. From a coaching perspective, I would recommend some practical strategies for managing your reactivity in the moment. One technique is to take a pause and count to 10 before responding. This can give you time to calm down and think more clearly about your response. Another strategy is to reframe the situation in a more positive light. Instead of feeling like someone is trying to control you, you can view their request as an opportunity to collaborate and work together. Finally, it can be helpful to practice self-compassion and forgiveness. Remember that we all make mistakes and have room to grow and learn. In summary, reactivity when someone tells you not to do something can be challenging, but there are a variety of tools and techniques you can use to manage it. Mindfulness meditation, examining your beliefs, and practical strategies like pausing and reframing can all be helpful. Remember to be kind and compassionate with yourself as you work to manage your reactivity.