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I have divorced. I am 24years old. I married one man I don't like and I divorced. He lied me and tried to keep me forever by marriage. Now I fear in the future I cannot find someone who loves me. what can I do?

Life5/7/2023

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Dear friend, I am sorry to hear that you recently went through a divorce. It's understandable to feel lost, confused, and anxious about the future. It takes a lot of courage to end a relationship that didn't feel right to you, and you should feel proud of yourself for taking that step. Going through a divorce can be tough, especially at a young age, but it's important to remember that you are not alone, and there is hope for a brighter future. From a Buddhist perspective, it's important to remember that everything is impermanent, and that includes our emotions and circumstances. It's natural to feel sad, angry, or fearful after a divorce, but those feelings are not permanent. You can take steps to heal, grow, and move forward. Buddhism teaches us that suffering is caused by attachment and craving, and that by letting go of those things, we can find peace and freedom. It may be helpful to focus on self-care, self-compassion, and mindfulness practices to help you let go of negative thoughts and emotions. From a psychological perspective, it's important to acknowledge your feelings and process them in a healthy way. It's normal to feel anxious about finding love again after a divorce, but it's important not to let that fear control your life. You can work on building your self-esteem, practicing self-love, and setting healthy boundaries in future relationships. It may also be helpful to seek therapy or counseling to work through any unresolved issues from your past relationship and to build healthy coping mechanisms. As a coach, I would suggest that you take some time to focus on yourself and your goals. This can be a great opportunity to rediscover your passions, hobbies, and interests. Spend time with friends and family who support you, and don't be afraid to try new things. When you are ready, you can start dating again, but don't rush into anything before you are emotionally ready. Remember that finding love is not a race, and that the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.