I spend too much time trying to get a fair deal, even though I know I shouldn't be like that

Hello, thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings with me. It sounds like you are struggling with a desire to always get a fair deal, even though you recognize that this may not be the healthiest mindset. It's understandable to want to be treated fairly, but when it becomes an obsession, it can be detrimental to our mental and emotional wellbeing. From a Buddhist perspective, the concept of impermanence can be helpful in understanding why it's important to let go of the need to always get a fair deal. Everything is constantly changing, and nothing is permanent. This includes situations where we may feel wronged or treated unfairly. Holding onto these feelings only causes us suffering, as we are unable to change the past or control the actions of others. Instead, we can focus on accepting what has happened and finding peace in the present moment. From a psychological perspective, this mindset can be related to a need for control or a fear of being taken advantage of. It's important to recognize that we cannot control everything in life, including how others treat us. However, we can control our reactions and responses to these situations. It may be helpful to explore any underlying fears or beliefs that may be driving this need for fairness, and work on reframing those thoughts in a more positive and empowering way. As a coach, my advice would be to focus on letting go of the need for a fair deal and instead shift your focus to gratitude and abundance. This can be done by practicing daily gratitude exercises, such as writing down three things you are grateful for each day. Additionally, try to focus on the positive aspects of situations rather than dwelling on the negative. When faced with a situation where you feel you are not getting a fair deal, ask yourself if it will matter in the long run and if it's worth holding onto negative feelings. Finally, remember that you have the power to choose your thoughts and reactions, and by letting go of the need for fairness, you can find greater peace and happiness in your life.