我曾經很愛他，亦以為他喜歡我，結果只是我一廂情願就沒有再聯絡。最近在聚會上再遇見他，覺得很尷尬，全身都在抖，我怎麼就放不下他？

Dear User, I understand that you are feeling a lot of emotions right now after seeing someone you used to love at a recent gathering. It can be difficult to move on from someone we care deeply about, especially if we thought that person might have had feelings for us too. It is completely understandable that you feel embarrassed and nervous around him now that it seems like your feelings weren't reciprocated. Please know that it is okay to feel this way, and that your emotions are valid. From a Buddhist perspective, it is important to acknowledge and accept our emotions, but also to recognize that they are impermanent. Our feelings and thoughts come and go like clouds in the sky, and clinging onto them can cause suffering. It may be helpful to practice mindfulness and observe your thoughts and emotions without judgment. Allow yourself to feel what you feel, but also remind yourself that these feelings will eventually pass. From a psychological perspective, it may be helpful to reflect on why you are still holding onto these feelings for this person. Are you idealizing the relationship? Are you afraid of being alone? It may be helpful to seek support from a therapist or trusted friend to explore these feelings and work through them. As for specific coaching advice, it may be helpful to focus on self-care and self-love. Practice self-compassion and remind yourself that you deserve happiness and love. Engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment, and surround yourself with positive and supportive people. If you feel ready, you could also try reaching out to this person and having an honest conversation about how you feel, but also be prepared for the possibility that they may not feel the same way. Remember that healing takes time, but with patience and self-compassion, you will be able to move forward from this experience.