My girlfriend is usually very attentive. But when I don’t feel well, I can get more needy. She then becomes busy or not responsive. Is she avoiding me? Does it mean she only love me when I am good?

Dear User, I understand how difficult it can be when the person we love seems distant or unresponsive, particularly when we are feeling vulnerable. It's natural to have questions and concerns when our partner's behavior changes. I want to reassure you that this is not necessarily a reflection of her love for you. It's possible that when you are feeling low, you may be interpreting her actions differently than you would if you were feeling better. It's also possible that she may not know how to respond in the way that you need, or that she may be dealing with her own issues that are affecting her ability to be present for you. From a Buddhist perspective, it's important to remember that all things are impermanent and constantly changing. Our relationships are no exception. We cannot control the actions of others, only our own reactions. It's important to cultivate compassion and understanding for our partner, even when their behavior is not what we would like it to be. This can be difficult, but it's an important part of our spiritual practice. It's also important to remember that our happiness is not dependent on the actions of others, but rather on our own state of mind. From a psychological perspective, it may be helpful to communicate with your girlfriend about how you are feeling and what you need from her when you are not feeling well. She may not know that you need more attention or support, and clear communication can help to bridge that gap. It's also important to take care of yourself and your own emotional needs. Developing a strong sense of self-worth and self-care can help you to feel more secure in your relationship, even when your partner's behavior is not what you would like it to be. In terms of coaching advice, I would suggest that you focus on your own self-care and communicate clearly with your girlfriend about your needs. It may be helpful to practice mindfulness or meditation to cultivate a sense of calm and inner peace. Remember that you cannot control the actions of others, but you can control your own reactions. Cultivating compassion and understanding for your partner can help to strengthen your relationship and bring you closer together.