I love a boy in another country. he keeps flirting with me but also told me he still dated with other girls.

Dear friend, I hear that you are in love with a boy who lives in another country. It can be tough to develop feelings for someone who is geographically distant, particularly when you are uncertain about their intentions. You mention that he has been flirting with you, but has also disclosed that he is still involved with other girls. This must be confusing and frustrating for you, and I want to acknowledge your feelings. From a Buddhist perspective, love and attachment are not the same. Love is an unconditional state of being that is directed towards all beings, while attachment is a clinging to a person or thing that we believe will bring us happiness. It is natural to feel attached to someone we care about, but clinging to attachment can lead to suffering. In this situation, it is important to be mindful of your feelings and observe them without judgment. Recognize that you are not in control of the boy's actions, only your own. From a psychological perspective, it is important to recognize that you have agency over your own life and happiness. You deserve to be with someone who values and respects you, and who is willing to commit to a relationship. If this boy is not willing to be exclusive with you, it may be time to reassess your feelings and consider whether this relationship is truly serving your needs. As a coach, I would encourage you to take some time to reflect on what you want out of a relationship. What are your values and priorities? What are your non-negotiables? Once you have a clear understanding of your needs, you can communicate them to the boy and see whether he is willing to meet them. If not, it may be time to move on and find someone who is a better match for you.