Hi Buddha, I felt so helpless when others around thought I'm not suitable for the one I care, and I even agreed with some of their points. And that one didn't seem to be bothered by my suffering inside. What should I do?

Dear friend, I can sense the pain and confusion you're experiencing right now. It can be incredibly challenging when others around us doubt our abilities or worthiness, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. It's understandable that you would feel helpless in this situation, and it's normal to agree with some of the points others have made about you. It's important to remember that their opinions are just that - opinions - and they don't define who you are as a person. You have your own unique strengths and qualities that make you suitable for love and connection. It's also understandable that you feel hurt that the person you care about doesn't seem to be bothered by your suffering. It's important to remember that everyone processes emotions differently, and it's possible that they just don't know how to respond or are dealing with their own challenges. From a Buddhist perspective, it's important to cultivate self-compassion and self-love. We often place our self-worth in the hands of others, but true happiness comes from within. Take some time to reflect on your own strengths and qualities and remind yourself of your inherent worthiness. Practice self-care and self-compassion, and remember that you are deserving of love and connection. From a psychological perspective, it may be helpful to communicate your feelings and concerns to the person you care about. It's possible that they are unaware of the impact their actions are having on you. Open and honest communication can help to clear up any misunderstandings and strengthen your connection. It's also important to set healthy boundaries with others who are doubting your abilities or worthiness. Surround yourself with people who lift you up and support you, and distance yourself from those who bring you down. In terms of coaching advice, I would suggest focusing on your own personal growth and development. Take classes or workshops that help you to cultivate your strengths and build your confidence. Surround yourself with positive role models and mentors who can guide you on your journey. Don't be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and try new things, and remember that growth and transformation take time. Finally, know that you are not alone in your struggles, and that with time, patience, and self-love, you can overcome any obstacle that comes your way.