I have broken up with a friend after a big argument. I felt heartbroken because we've know each other for 19 years. I blocked her from seeing my own social media. But I can still see hers. In fact, sometimes I checked her social media frequently, and she doesn't know it because this is her more private account without many followers. Should I unfriend her on the internet? How could I stop check on her? Or should I keep doing it

Dear User, I understand how difficult it must be for you to have experienced a big argument with a friend you have known for 19 years. It is natural to feel heartbroken and to struggle with the aftermath of such a situation. The fact that you blocked her from seeing your social media shows that you needed space and time to heal from the hurt. However, constantly checking her social media, even though she is unaware of it, can create further emotional turmoil for you. From a Buddhist perspective, it is important to remember the principle of non-attachment. Holding onto resentment or constantly monitoring someone else's life through social media only prolongs your suffering and prevents you from finding inner peace. It is essential to let go of the need to keep tabs on her and focus on your own healing and growth. From a psychological perspective, constantly checking her social media can lead to a cycle of rumination, where your mind becomes preoccupied with thoughts about her and the past argument. This can negatively impact your mental well-being and prevent you from moving forward. It is crucial to break this pattern and redirect your attention towards activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. In terms of coaching advice, I would suggest unfriending her on social media. By taking this step, you create a boundary that allows you to focus on your own healing without the temptation of checking her updates. Additionally, consider exploring new hobbies, engaging in self-care practices, and spending time with supportive friends and loved ones who can provide you with the emotional support you need during this challenging time. Remember, healing takes time, and it is essential to be patient and compassionate with yourself. Allow yourself to grieve and process the loss of the friendship, but also strive to cultivate inner peace and acceptance. By letting go of the need to check on her, you create space for new experiences and relationships to enter your life.