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Why I always have a very bad thinking of things of people in my mind scolding and cursing whenever things doesn’t go according my way. Will that create a karma

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I hear you. It sounds like when things don't go the way you hoped, your mind fills with harsh words—toward others, and maybe toward yourself too. And now you're wondering whether that creates something you can't take back, something that will come back to hurt you. That worry itself shows how much you care about doing right. Here's something that might help ease your mind a little: the moment you're noticing these thoughts and questioning them, something important is already happening. You're not lost in them without awareness. That gap—between the thought arising and you noticing it—that's where freedom actually lives. When we're frustrated or disappointed, our mind naturally goes to blame, to harsh words. It's not a flaw in you; it's how the human mind tries to protect itself when things feel out of control. The mind thinks, "If I'm angry first, maybe the hurt won't touch me." But you're discovering that this doesn't really work, doesn't it? The anger just leaves you feeling worse about yourself. What matters more than the thought itself is what you do with it next. If a harsh thought appears and you notice it, acknowledge it ("there's that anger again"), and then gently turn your attention elsewhere—that's already different from being carried away by it. The thought came and went like a cloud passing. That's not creating the weight you're afraid of. If you want to try something small today: the next time you feel that scolding rising up, pause for just one breath. Place your hand on your heart, and say something quietly to yourself—not to fix the anger, but to meet yourself with a little kindness. "I'm frustrated right now. That's okay." Just that. You might be surprised how much space that small gesture opens.