I have two friends that do not come along. They both ask me out for lunch. How to deal with this?

Dear friend, thank you for reaching out to me with your concern. It can be challenging when two friends who do not get along both ask to spend time with you. It is understandable that you may feel conflicted and unsure of how to handle the situation. From a Buddhist perspective, we can approach this with compassion and understanding for both friends. We can recognize that all beings are seeking happiness and freedom from suffering, and that their behavior may be a result of their own struggles and difficulties. From a psychological perspective, it may be helpful to explore your own feelings and boundaries in this situation. It is important to prioritize your own well-being and not feel obligated to please everyone. It may be helpful to communicate openly and honestly with both friends, expressing your desire to maintain positive relationships with each of them while also acknowledging the challenges of their conflict. It may also be helpful to suggest alternative ways of spending time together, such as separate outings or group activities where everyone can participate without feeling uncomfortable. As a coach, I would encourage you to reflect on your values and priorities in your relationships. What do you value most in your friendships, and how can you honor those values while navigating this situation? It may also be helpful to practice mindfulness and self-compassion, recognizing that you are doing the best you can in a challenging situation. Remember that it is okay to set boundaries and prioritize your own well-being, even if it means disappointing someone else.