There is someone hurt me and said something really bad to me. But we’ve been friends for 19 years. After the big fight, I cannot forget about her. Keep checking on her social media. But we haven’t talked for about 6 month. And I know this relationship has ended. What can I do to stop thinking about her everyday.

Dear friend, I am sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult time with a friend you have known for 19 years. It is understandable that you are feeling hurt and struggling to let go of the relationship, especially given the long history you share. It can be challenging to come to terms with the end of a friendship, particularly when it has been a significant part of your life for so long. Please know that your feelings are valid, and it is okay to take the time you need to process what has happened. From a Buddhist perspective, letting go of attachment is a key concept. It can be helpful to reflect on the impermanence of all things, including relationships. Nothing stays the same forever, and everything is subject to change. While it may be painful to let go, it is essential to remember that holding onto attachment can cause suffering. Practicing mindfulness and meditation can help you to observe and accept your feelings without getting caught up in them. From a psychological perspective, it is natural to feel a sense of loss and grief when a relationship ends. It may be helpful to acknowledge and validate your emotions, rather than suppressing or denying them. Allow yourself to feel the pain and sadness without judgment or criticism. It can also be useful to focus on self-care and activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Try to shift your attention away from thoughts about the past and redirect it towards the present moment. As a coach, my advice would be to take practical steps to distance yourself from the relationship. This could include unfollowing or blocking the person on social media, avoiding places where you might run into them, and finding new hobbies or social circles that do not involve them. You may also find it helpful to write down your thoughts and feelings in a journal or speak to a trusted friend or therapist about what you are going through. Remember that healing takes time, and it is okay to seek support when you need it.