how come my breathing stops when I mediate?

Dear friend, I understand that you are experiencing difficulty with your breathing while meditating. It is not uncommon for individuals to encounter physical sensations while meditating, especially in the beginning stages. These sensations can range from tingling, itching, and even a feeling of suffocation. It can be alarming and cause anxiety. However, please know that it is a natural response to the stillness of the body, and it does not mean that anything is wrong with you. From a Buddhist perspective, meditation is about being present and aware of our thoughts and feelings. It is about observing these experiences without judgment or attachment, and allowing them to pass. When we focus on our breath, our minds may wander, and we may become distracted. It is essential to acknowledge these distractions and gently bring our focus back to our breath. In doing so, we cultivate a sense of calm and clarity. From a psychological perspective, it is possible that your breathing stops due to anxiety or stress. When we become anxious, our breathing can become shallow and rapid, and we may even hold our breath without realizing it. It is crucial to identify any underlying triggers that may be causing this response and work on managing those triggers through mindfulness, therapy, or other coping strategies. To address your concern, I suggest that you try to adjust your posture and ensure that you are sitting comfortably and with good alignment. You may also try to focus on your exhale, which can help regulate your breathing. Finally, please know that it is okay to take a break from meditation if you need to. You can come back to it when you feel ready. Remember, meditation is a journey, and it takes time and practice to develop a regular practice.