我在正式场合或者会议，演讲的场合容易嘴发抖，就算我已经前期做了充分的准备，我知道其实紧张是没有太大必要的，但是就是控不住自己会心跳加快并且导致思维混乱

Dear User, I understand that you struggle with trembling and racing thoughts when speaking in formal or public settings, even when you have prepared thoroughly beforehand. It's natural to feel nervous or anxious in these situations, and it's important to recognize that these feelings are not a reflection of your abilities or worth as a person. It's also important to acknowledge that while nerves can be helpful in small doses, excessive anxiety can interfere with clear thinking and communication. From a Buddhist perspective, it can be helpful to cultivate mindfulness and self-compassion in moments of stress. Mindfulness involves paying attention to the present moment without judgment, which can help you stay focused on your message rather than getting caught up in anxious thoughts. Self-compassion involves treating yourself with kindness and understanding, rather than harsh self-criticism. You might try taking a few deep breaths and silently repeating a phrase like "may I be kind to myself" or "may I speak with clarity and confidence." From a psychological perspective, cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) can be effective in managing anxiety related to public speaking. CBT involves identifying and challenging negative thoughts that contribute to anxiety, and replacing them with more realistic and helpful thoughts. For example, you might challenge the thought "I'm going to mess up and embarrass myself" with evidence of times when you have successfully spoken in public, or with a more balanced thought like "I might make mistakes, but that doesn't mean I'm a failure." As a coach, I would suggest that you continue to prepare thoroughly for speaking engagements, but also practice speaking in front of smaller groups or trusted friends to build your confidence. You might also experiment with different relaxation techniques, such as progressive muscle relaxation or visualization exercises, to help you feel more calm and centered before speaking. Finally, remember that public speaking is a skill that can be improved with practice and feedback, so don't be too hard on yourself if you don't get it perfect the first time. Warmly, HOTOKE AI