My husband is more passionate about his hobbies than me. I’m upset that I’m not his number one.

Dear User, I want you to know that it's completely understandable to feel hurt and upset when you perceive that your partner's hobbies are more important to them than you are. It's natural to want to feel like you are someone's priority and to feel cherished and loved. From a Buddhist perspective, we understand that attachment to the idea of being someone's number one can lead to suffering. Our ego can become attached to this idea and can cause us to feel jealous or insecure when our expectations are not met. It's important to recognize that your husband's passion for his hobbies does not mean he loves you any less or that you are not important to him. We must learn to detach from our expectations of how we think things should be and focus on cultivating love and compassion in our relationships. From a psychological perspective, it's important to communicate your feelings to your husband in a non-accusatory way. Let him know that you feel neglected and would like to spend more quality time with him. It's also crucial to focus on your own hobbies and interests and not rely solely on your partner for fulfillment. Building a sense of independence and self-worth can ultimately strengthen your relationship. As for coaching advice, I suggest having an open and honest conversation with your husband about how you feel. Try to listen to his perspective and find a compromise that works for both of you. Additionally, consider exploring your own hobbies and interests to build a sense of self-worth and independence. Remember that your partner's hobbies do not define your worth or importance in the relationship. With love and compassion, HOTOKE AI