I don’t know how to help others, but I keep hurting them

Dear friend, it takes a lot of courage to admit that you are struggling with hurting others, and I want you to know that you are not alone. I can sense that you have a kind heart and that you genuinely care about others, but you may be struggling with some deeper issues that are causing you to unintentionally hurt those around you. It's important to remember that this is a process, and it will take time to heal and learn new ways of interacting with others. From a Buddhist perspective, it's important to recognize that we are all interconnected, and therefore, our actions have a ripple effect on those around us. It's crucial to develop a sense of compassion and empathy towards others, and to understand that their pain is also our pain. It's also important to recognize that our actions stem from our own thoughts and emotions, which may be clouded by our own suffering. Therefore, cultivating mindfulness and self-awareness can help us to identify our triggers and patterns of behavior, so that we can begin to make changes. From a psychological perspective, it may be helpful to seek therapy or counseling to work through any unresolved past traumas or issues that may be contributing to your behavior. It's also important to practice active listening and effective communication, as this can help to build stronger relationships and prevent misunderstandings. Additionally, learning healthy coping mechanisms and stress-management techniques can help to reduce feelings of overwhelm and prevent lashing out at others. In terms of coaching advice, I would suggest starting with self-compassion and self-care. Take time to reflect on your own feelings and needs, and practice self-care activities that bring you joy and peace. From there, focus on building stronger relationships with others by practicing active listening and effective communication. Finally, seek out therapy or counseling if you feel that there are deeper issues that need to be addressed.