i’m not good at socialising

Dear friend, I hear you. Socializing can be a daunting and overwhelming task, especially if you feel like you're not good at it. It's perfectly understandable to feel nervous or anxious in social situations. Many people, including myself, have felt this way at some point in their lives. It's important to know that you're not alone in this. From a Buddhist perspective, it's important to remember that all beings are interconnected, and we are all fundamentally the same. It can be helpful to approach socializing with the mindset of cultivating compassion and understanding for others. When we focus on the well-being of others, we can let go of our own self-consciousness and anxiety. From a psychological perspective, it may be helpful to identify any negative thought patterns or limiting beliefs that may be holding you back. For example, you may have thoughts such as "I'm not interesting enough" or "people won't like me." These thoughts can create a self-fulfilling prophecy and make socializing even more challenging. By identifying and challenging these thoughts, you can start to shift your mindset and build confidence. As for specific coaching advice, I would suggest starting small and setting achievable goals. Perhaps you can start by attending a small social gathering with people you feel comfortable around, or by initiating a conversation with a co-worker. Remember to be kind and patient with yourself, and celebrate even small successes. Over time, with practice, you may find that socializing becomes easier and more enjoyable.