I have broken up with a friend after a big argument. I felt heartbroken because we've know each other for 19 years. I blocked her from seeing my own social media. But I can still see hers. In fact, sometimes I checked her social media frequently, and she doesn't know it because this is her more private account without many followers. Should I unfriend her on the internet? How could I stop check on her? Or should I keep doing it

Dear User, I understand how difficult it can be to navigate a broken friendship, especially when it has lasted for such a significant amount of time. The heartbreak you are feeling is valid, as it is natural to mourn the loss of a close connection. It seems that you have taken steps to protect yourself by blocking your friend from seeing your social media. However, you find yourself still checking her social media, despite the fact that she is not aware of it. This behavior can prolong your healing process and prevent you from moving forward. From a Buddhist perspective, it is important to cultivate compassion and non-attachment. Holding onto negative emotions and continuously checking on your friend's social media can create suffering and hinder your own well-being. It is essential to recognize that clinging to the past or seeking reassurance through social media will not bring you peace. From a psychological perspective, it is natural to have an urge to check on someone you were once close to. However, constantly checking your friend's social media can become a form of self-punishment and prolong your healing process. It may be helpful to remind yourself that checking her social media will not change the situation or bring resolution to the argument. Instead, focus on your own growth, healing, and creating new connections. As for specific coaching advice, I suggest unfriending or blocking your friend on social media. This action can serve as a symbolic step towards detaching yourself from the past and allowing yourself to heal. Additionally, it may be beneficial to redirect your energy and focus on nurturing yourself. Engage in activities that bring you joy, surround yourself with supportive friends, and consider seeking professional help if you find it challenging to overcome these feelings on your own. Remember, healing takes time, so be patient and kind to yourself throughout this process.