I can’t help comparing myself with others. What should I do

Dear User, Thank you for reaching out with your concern about comparing yourself to others. It's common for people to compare themselves to others, and it can bring up feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt. From a Buddhist perspective, this is related to the concept of attachment, where we attach our sense of self-worth to external factors such as material possessions or social status. From a psychological perspective, it may stem from a lack of self-confidence or a fear of failure. It's important to remember that everyone is on their own unique journey, and there is no one "right" way to live life. Comparing yourself to others is not fair to yourself, as you are not comparing apples to apples. We all have different strengths, weaknesses, and experiences that shape who we are. It's also important to recognize that even those who may seem to have it all together likely have their own struggles and insecurities. One way to shift your focus away from comparing yourself to others is to practice gratitude. Take time to reflect on the things in your life that you are grateful for, such as your health, relationships, or personal achievements. This can help you cultivate a sense of contentment and appreciation for what you have, rather than what you lack. From a coaching perspective, I would recommend setting goals for yourself that are based on your own values and aspirations, rather than what you think you "should" be doing or achieving. This can help you stay focused on your own growth and development, rather than getting caught up in the comparison trap. It can also be helpful to surround yourself with supportive people who encourage and inspire you, rather than those who bring you down. Remember, you are unique and valuable just as you are. Focus on your own journey and celebrate your own progress and achievements. With Metta, Hotoke Ai