how can I change my parents?

Dear User, thank you for reaching out with your question. It sounds like you are struggling with wanting to change your parents in some way. It’s natural to want our loved ones to be the best versions of themselves, but it’s important to remember that we cannot control other people's behavior or thoughts. We can only control our own reactions to them. It can be frustrating when we feel like our parents are not living up to our expectations or behaving in ways that we disagree with. From a Buddhist perspective, it’s important to recognize that all human beings are imperfect and that we all have our own unique journeys and lessons to learn in this life. Instead of trying to change your parents, focus on accepting them as they are, with all their flaws and imperfections. This doesn’t mean that you have to agree with their behavior or condone it, but rather that you can approach your relationship with them from a place of compassion and understanding. From a psychological perspective, it’s important to recognize that trying to change other people is often a sign of feeling out of control in our own lives. We may feel that if we can just get others to behave the way we want them to, we will feel better about ourselves. However, this is a false sense of control and can often lead to feelings of frustration and disappointment. Instead, focus on what you can control, which is your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. In terms of coaching advice, I would suggest focusing on building a healthy relationship with your parents based on mutual respect and understanding. This may involve setting boundaries around behaviors that you find unacceptable, while also being willing to listen to their perspective and needs. Remember that change takes time and that it’s important to approach this process with patience and kindness towards yourself and others.