my husband has thousands of female friends on his social media. And he likes checking women online. I don’t feel secure in this relationship.

Dear User, I can understand how difficult and disheartening it can be to feel insecure in your relationship due to your husband's social media habits. These kinds of situations can bring up feelings of anxiety, distrust, and loneliness. It is essential to take care of yourself and recognize that your feelings are valid and important. You have a right to feel secure in your relationship and have your emotional needs met. From a Buddhist perspective, attachment and craving are the source of suffering. It is natural to feel attached to our partners, but it is crucial to recognize that we cannot control their actions. Similarly, from a psychological perspective, we cannot control other people's behavior or thoughts. However, we can control our reactions and responses to situations. It would be helpful to explore the underlying causes of your husband's behavior and how it makes you feel. This exploration can help you gain insight into your feelings and develop a plan to address them. Coaching advice: 1. Communicate your feelings to your husband in a non-judgmental and honest way. Let him know how his behavior makes you feel and ask him to consider how his actions might impact you. 2. Take time for self-care and self-compassion. Engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. 3. Consider seeking support from a therapist, coach or spiritual teacher to help you navigate your emotions and develop strategies for coping with difficult situations. Remember, you deserve to feel secure in your relationship and to have your emotional needs met. It is possible to work through these challenges and grow stronger as individuals and as a couple.