My boy turns to 21 year old, he is alone in Spain, does not contact us, I called the police several times they tell me he's alive and that he doesn't want to touch us

Dear User, I can only imagine how difficult and painful it must be for you to not have any contact with your son who is alone in a foreign country. It's natural to feel worried and concerned about his well-being when you haven't heard from him. It's understandable that you have reached out to the police for help and have been told that he is alive but not willing to contact you. This must be a challenging time for you, and I want to offer my empathy and support. From a Buddhist perspective, it's important to remember that everything is impermanent and constantly changing. This includes our relationships with others. While it's natural to want to hold onto our loved ones, it's important to recognize that we cannot control their actions or decisions. This can be a difficult truth to accept, but it can also be liberating to let go of attachment and focus on our own well-being. From a psychological perspective, it's normal to feel worried and anxious when we don't hear from our loved ones, especially when they are in a foreign country. It's important to take care of your own emotional needs during this time. This might include seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist to help you cope with the uncertainty and worry. As for coaching advice, it may be helpful to focus on what actions you can take to support yourself during this time. Consider reaching out to a therapist who can help you process your emotions and develop coping strategies. It may also be helpful to find ways to stay connected to your son, such as sending emails or letters, without putting pressure on him to respond. Finally, try to focus on self-care activities that bring you joy and help you manage stress. Remember that you are not alone, and it's okay to ask for help and support during difficult times. Take care of yourself, and keep an open heart towards your son.