I feel selfish thinking about my problem all the time

Dear friend, it's understandable to feel guilty or selfish at times when we focus on our own problems. However, it's important to remember that taking care of ourselves is crucial to our well-being, and that we can't help others if we don't take care of ourselves first. It's also important to recognize that our thoughts and feelings are valid, and it's okay to prioritize our own needs sometimes. From a Buddhist perspective, it's important to practice self-compassion and non-judgment towards ourselves. We can't control our thoughts and emotions, but we can control how we respond to them. By practicing mindfulness and meditation, we can observe our thoughts and feelings without judgment and cultivate a sense of inner peace and acceptance. From a psychological perspective, it's important to recognize that focusing on our own problems can be a sign of anxiety or depression. It's important to seek professional help if our thoughts and feelings are interfering with our daily life. Therapy can provide a safe space to explore our emotions and develop coping strategies. In terms of coaching advice, it's important to find a balance between focusing on our own needs and helping others. One helpful strategy is to set aside a specific time each day to focus on our own needs, such as practicing self-care or journaling. Outside of that time, we can focus on helping others and being present for them. It's also important to communicate our needs to others and ask for help when we need it.