I have broken up with a friend after a big argument. I felt heartbroken because we've know each other for 19 years. I blocked her from seeing my own social media. But I can still see hers. In fact, sometimes I checked her social media frequently, and she doesn't know it because this is her more private account without many followers. Should I unfriend her on the internet? How could I stop check on her? Or should I keep doing it

Dear User, I understand how painful it is to go through a breakup with a friend, especially after knowing each other for such a long time. The emotional attachment and shared experiences can make it difficult to let go and move on. It's natural to feel heartbroken and to have mixed feelings about the situation. From a Buddhist perspective, it is important to cultivate compassion and understanding towards yourself and your friend. This means acknowledging your own pain and allowing yourself to grieve the loss of the friendship. At the same time, it is crucial to recognize that holding onto resentment or continuously checking on your friend's social media may only prolong your suffering. From a psychological standpoint, it is understandable that you may still be curious about your friend's life and want to keep tabs on her. However, constantly checking her social media can prevent you from fully healing and moving forward. It may also create unnecessary emotional turmoil for yourself. Coaching advice: 1. Allow yourself to grieve: Give yourself time and space to process the loss of the friendship. It's okay to feel sad, angry, or confused. Allow these emotions to arise, but try not to dwell on them excessively. 2. Focus on self-care: Engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Prioritize your own well-being and invest time in nurturing other relationships or exploring new interests. 3. Practice mindfulness: When you find yourself tempted to check your friend's social media, take a moment to pause and observe your thoughts and emotions. Instead of acting on the impulse, redirect your attention to something positive or calming, such as breathing exercises or engaging in a mindfulness practice. 4. Consider unfriending/blocking: If seeing her posts continues to trigger negative emotions or hinder your healing process, it may be beneficial to unfriend or block her on social media. This can help create a healthier boundary and give you the space you need to heal. 5. Seek support: Reach out to trusted friends, family, or a therapist who can provide a listening ear and guidance during this challenging time. Sharing your feelings and experiences can offer you valuable insights and support. Remember, healing takes time, and it's okay to have setbacks along the way. Be patient and kind to yourself as you navigate through this process.