my cousin is so stupid. i am in need of my aunt's help, but my cousin won't let my aunt help us. Instead she is trying to start more shit with me. I hate her so much. Why do I have family like this.

Dear User, I can understand how difficult it can be to deal with family members who may not be supportive or understanding. It can be especially frustrating when you are in need of help, and the one person who could provide it is being blocked by another family member. It's completely understandable to feel angry and resentful towards your cousin for creating more problems instead of being supportive. As a Buddhist, we understand that everyone is on their own journey, and we cannot control the actions of others. However, we can control our own reactions and responses to the situation. It's important to remember that anger and hatred towards others only leads to more suffering, both for ourselves and others. Instead, we can practice compassion towards our cousin, as she may be struggling with her own issues and insecurities. From a psychological perspective, it may be helpful to try and communicate with your cousin in a calm and rational manner, expressing your needs and concerns. It's possible that she may not fully understand how her actions are affecting you, and by communicating openly, you may be able to find a solution that works for everyone. It's also important to take care of your own emotional well-being, whether through talking to a trusted friend or practicing self-care activities that bring you joy. In terms of coaching advice, I would suggest trying to approach the situation with an open mind and heart. It may be helpful to take a step back and reflect on what you truly need in this situation, and what actions you can take to achieve that goal. You may also want to consider seeking the support of a therapist or coach, who can provide guidance and tools to help navigate difficult family dynamics. Remember, you are not alone, and there are resources available to help you through this challenging time.