我昨天晚上去找我的女朋友，但是我并没有告诉她我去找她，然后骗她说是外卖点错了。最后我让她下楼拿时候给她一个惊喜，可是她并不开心，相反她好像比较反感我这样的举动，但是她之前这样给我惊喜时候我是很开心，可是这次换成我给她惊喜她却有这样的态度，然后还让我自己住酒店。之前她来找我的时候我什么都安排的妥当，生活用品给她给买好。这次这样我很伤心。

Dear User, I can understand that you feel hurt and confused by your girlfriend's reaction to your surprise visit. It sounds like you had good intentions and wanted to surprise her, but unfortunately, it did not work out as planned. It is natural to feel disappointed when our efforts are not appreciated, especially when we feel like we have gone above and beyond for someone we care about. From a Buddhist perspective, it is important to remember that our actions have consequences, and we should always strive to act with kindness, compassion, and respect towards others. Deception, even if it is meant to be a surprise, can create negative karma and cause harm to our relationships. It is essential to communicate openly and honestly with our loved ones, even if it means giving up the element of surprise. From a psychological perspective, it is essential to understand that everyone has different preferences and expectations when it comes to surprises and gifts. Just because you enjoyed receiving a surprise from your girlfriend before does not mean that she will feel the same way. It is crucial to have open and honest communication with your partner to understand their needs and preferences. It is also essential to manage our own expectations and not take rejection or disappointment personally. Moving forward, it may be helpful to have a conversation with your girlfriend about how you can improve your communication and actions to show your love and appreciation for her. You can also ask her about her preferences when it comes to surprises and gifts, so you can better understand what she likes and dislikes. Remember to approach the conversation with an open mind and heart, and be willing to listen to her needs and concerns. With patience, understanding, and communication, you can work through this issue and strengthen your relationship.