i am afraid to trust my partner due to domestic violence at childhood, what should i do

I understand that you are struggling with fear and mistrust in your current relationship due to the trauma you experienced in childhood. It is completely understandable for past experiences to impact our present relationships, and it takes a lot of courage to confront those feelings and seek help. It is important to remember that you are not alone in this, and there are resources available to support you. From a Buddhist perspective, it is important to practice self-compassion and mindfulness. It can be easy to fall into a pattern of self-blame or negative self-talk when dealing with past trauma, but it is important to recognize that these thoughts and feelings are not our fault. By practicing self-compassion, we can learn to be kind and gentle with ourselves, and by practicing mindfulness, we can learn to focus on the present moment instead of being overwhelmed by past experiences. From a psychological perspective, it may be helpful to seek the support of a therapist or counselor. They can help you process your past trauma and develop coping strategies for dealing with fear and mistrust in your current relationship. It may also be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about your past experiences and how they are impacting your current relationship. By communicating openly and honestly, you can build a stronger foundation of trust and support. Coaching advice: It takes time and effort to heal from past trauma, but it is possible. I encourage you to seek the support of a therapist or counselor who can provide you with the tools and guidance you need to process your past experiences and build a healthier relationship with your partner. Remember to practice self-compassion and mindfulness, and to communicate openly and honestly with your partner. Healing is a journey, but with the right resources and support, you can overcome your fears and build a stronger, healthier relationship.