I care a lot about other’s view on me.

Dear friend, thank you for sharing your concern about caring a lot about other people's views of you. It's understandable to want to be accepted and appreciated by others. However, when we rely too heavily on external validation, we may find ourselves feeling anxious, self-conscious, or even depressed when we don't receive the approval we seek. It's important to remember that we are all unique individuals, and not everyone will see us in the same way. It's impossible to please everyone, and we can't control how others perceive us. From a Buddhist perspective, we can find peace by letting go of our attachment to external validation. We can cultivate self-compassion and self-acceptance, recognizing that we are all imperfect and that's okay. We can also practice mindfulness, observing our thoughts and emotions without judgment, and learning to respond to them with kindness and understanding. By focusing on our own inner growth and development, we can become less concerned with what others think of us. From a psychological perspective, it may be helpful to explore the root of our need for approval. Perhaps we have experienced rejection or criticism in the past, and we are trying to avoid those painful feelings. Or maybe we have a deep-seated belief that we are not good enough, and we are seeking validation to prove otherwise. Through therapy or self-reflection, we can uncover these underlying issues and work on healing them. As a coach, I would encourage you to practice self-compassion and mindfulness regularly. Start by setting aside a few minutes each day to meditate or journal, focusing on your breath and observing your thoughts without judgment. When you notice yourself getting caught up in worrying about what others think of you, gently remind yourself that you are worthy and lovable just as you are. You can also challenge yourself to step outside of your comfort zone and do things that make you happy, regardless of what others might think. By taking small steps towards self-acceptance and self-love, you can gradually reduce your dependence on external validation.