我昨天晚上去找我的女朋友，但是我并没有告诉她我去找她，然后骗她说是外卖点错了。最后我让她下楼拿时候给她一个惊喜，可是她并不开心，相反她好像比较反感我这样的举动，但是她之前这样给我惊喜时候我是很开心，可是这次换成我给她惊喜她却有这样的态度，然后还让我自己住酒店。之前她来找我的时候我什么都安排的妥当，生活用品给她给买好。这次这样我很伤心。于是，我到了她住的地方后，我们并没有说话，沉默了一个小时，在我看来那个气氛非常的尴尬而且我也非常的伤心，为什么局面会是这样，然后我自己主动没有说话就离开了，接着她一晚上一直给我打电话和发短信我并没有理会，第二天我就删除了她得微信，并不想接她电话，然而我的心特别的堵，我不知道我要跟她说什么，

Dear User, I am sorry to hear that you are feeling hurt and confused about the situation with your girlfriend. It can be difficult when we try to surprise someone and it doesn't turn out as we expected. I can understand how you must have felt when your girlfriend didn't react as you thought she would. It's natural to feel disappointed when our good intentions aren't received positively. From a Buddhist perspective, it's important to practice compassion and understanding towards ourselves and others. It's okay if our actions don't always have the intended effect, and we should try to avoid blaming ourselves or others. Instead, we should focus on learning from our experiences and practicing loving-kindness towards ourselves and those around us. From a psychological perspective, communication is key in any relationship. It's important to have open and honest conversations with our partners to avoid misunderstandings and hurt feelings. It's also important to respect each other's boundaries and preferences. It's possible that your girlfriend may have felt uncomfortable with the surprise or may have preferred a different type of surprise. It's important to listen to each other and find ways to compromise and make each other happy. My coaching advice would be to take some time to reflect on your feelings and thoughts about the situation. When you feel ready, try to reach out to your girlfriend and have a calm and respectful conversation about what happened. Apologize for any hurt feelings and try to understand her perspective as well. From there, you can work together to find ways to improve your communication and strengthen your relationship.