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my early retired father has been sitting at home watching tv claiming practicing zen for over 10 years. As a son, what should i do

Family3/6/2024

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Dear User, I can understand how challenging it must be for you to see your father spending so much time at home watching TV while claiming to be practicing Zen for over a decade. From a Buddhist perspective, it is important to approach this situation with compassion and understanding. Your father may have his reasons for his current behavior, and it is essential to try to see things from his perspective. Perhaps there are underlying issues or emotions that he is trying to cope with by immersing himself in TV and associating it with Zen practice. From a psychological standpoint, it may be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with your father about your concerns. Express your love and care for him, and gently inquire about his understanding of Zen practice and how he feels it aligns with his current activities. Active listening and showing empathy towards his experiences can create a safe space for deeper communication and understanding between you both. As a coaching suggestion, you could gently encourage your father to explore other Zen practices beyond watching TV, such as meditation, mindfulness, or engaging in activities that promote presence and awareness. Offer to participate in these practices together, creating a bonding experience that can deepen your relationship and potentially shift his focus towards a more active and mindful Zen practice. Remember to approach this with patience and understanding, honoring your father's journey and allowing him to find his path in his own time.

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